Category: The Rave Board
I'm genuinely happy with my family size! I used to feel guilty about not being able to give her a sibling, but now I genuinely like being able to put all of my time and energy into one child.
I'm pleased to hear that. One should never feel guilty about the number of children they have (unless maybe you have six kids and can't afford to take care of them). One day perhaps she'll have a sibling, but if not, there's nothing wrong with it.
I've only got one daughter, and that's exactly how I feel: I can give her everything I've got. I was number 5 of ten and when you have a crowd that big, there's just no way.
So glad you feel that way. Lots of people want to have 100000000000000000000 give or take a few and they're still not satisfied. I think you've got the right idea!
yeah, look at the family that's got 19 kids and counting, and their own reality TV show? That's just messed up ...
Shows like 19 and counting are why I rarely turn on my tv set.
I spent some time in a country whose norm, Generation X and prior, was 5, 7, 9 kid families. Due to a 10 year civil war and a large level of male unemployment...literally this place has more people under the age of 30 than it has jobs...the young resort to theft to survive. All apartments have burglar bars on the outside, and now even elderly ladies who speak indigenous tribal languages and very little French know enough of the latter language to say "Deux enfants, sai" or "Two children, enough". I'm delighted with my one. This is the number I have time, love, and resources to provide.
See, most people don't think. They just pop out kids.
I think 19 kids and counting is a crazy show; however, if they can take care of all of them, have at it. I will never have that many kids. NEVER, but if people want to do that, and they can take care of their kids, I guess it's OK. I do worry about those kids on 19 kids and counting being "normal." To me, you shouldn't have to play the role of parent at age seven or eight. That's just my opinion though. I'm not saying kids shouldn't be responsible for things like chores and other things, but to raise another child..... no. Anyway,:) Sorry for the rambling.
I think it's abnormal & unnatural to have a new baby every year to the point where a family has 10+ kids. At one time families were large in part because of high infant mortality, maybe a family gave birth to 8 kids and 3 or 4 survived, in part because kids were considered more for work & helping out with the family business to be educated much past primary school. Three kids I can see some of my guy friends have 3 kids, 4+?! Hardship situation if divorce widowhood or unemployment come into the picture.
I think it's very lazy to make a child play the role of parent at a very young age. Many people where I live are lazy...we're talking taking a car everywhere, even places within walking distance or accessible by public transit; blocking people in the driveway rather than parking & walking; even expecting 4 & 5 year olds to help out with the new baby. Too many adults where I live need to be told to take responsibility for their own kids & get off their (a words). One woman when she asked did I want another child and I said "No", tried to dissuade me by saying, "You know a child her age can really be helpful with a sibling." FTS...ultimately pets & kids are adult responsibilities, and I'm not part of the majority church here that is very much in favor of big families.
What country were you in with this family size?
I spent some time in Algeria in northern Africa. Husband comes from family of 5 kids (#4 were twins), I even know expats who come from 7 child families. Too many young for the # of other than menial jobs, many trying for any visa they can get to leave or resorting to theft to survive. I just love this little one & hope she outlives me by a long shot!
I am glad that you got the perfect family because I have one child as well and it does get very expensive.
I hpe for the best for you
Thanks, Little foot! I've gone thru guilt phases, but I think I'm over that as time marches on. I love having a loving relationship with one. Best of luck to you with your child too!
thanks for the comet.